The Only Resolution You Need For 2017

The only resolution you need for 2017 is to love more. That’s it. It’s simple and we can all do it. I promise!

Love More Resolution

The easiest way for me to think about loving, is to define the opposites of love, and they are numerous. My list below is just a beginning.

The opposites of love are:

  • fear,
  • hate,
  • self-doubt,
  • judgment,
  • apathy,
  • jealousy,
  • contempt, and
  • resentment

As you can see, the only resolution you need for 2017 is to love more. Love requires you to trust that you are enough, you have enough, and you do enough. While it’s not always easy, it can be done. So, when you are not coming from a place of love, you are probably in some form or fear.

Deciding that you want to love more calls on you to practice — a lot. Being in fear is the default for many of us.  So, if we can work toward making love the default, we’re in for a wonderful ride.

Practical ways to implement your resolution:

  • Be a kinder, gentler driver
  • Smile at a stranger just because
  • Pay it forward any way you want (buy coffee for the person behind you in line at Starbucks)
  • Be genuinely happy for the success of others
  • Trust in your talents and abilities
  • Forgive someone
  • Write a list of 10 things you’re grateful for each day
  • Show empathy even when your reflexes want you to do otherwise
  • Give lots of hugs to the people in your life
  • Say “I love you” at least once a day, even if it’s to yourself

In conclusion, I hope you will take steps each day to ground yourself in love as you keep your resolution. Let me know what your resolutions are for 2017!

Wishing you a wonderful 2017, filled with love, light and passion!

P.S. Stay tuned for some exciting new ventures I have planned for this year!

 

Don’t Fall Into the Trap of Weight-Loss Resolutions

It’s the time of year when everyone is talking about resolutions. Resolutions to buy less and be more; Resolutions to spend more time with friends and family instead of in front of the TV; and of course, resolutions to lose weight.

New Year's Resolutions

Just writing that sentence triggers me immensely. I’ve had decades of resolutions that were focused on losing weight once and for all. Thank God the last resolution I made was to not make resolutions anymore — especially about weight loss. I find them fraught with weighty expectation and inevitable disappointment.

If you haven’t already, you will soon be bombarded with ads for the latest exercise craze, discounted gym memberships, or the diet book that will finally change your life. Yep. It’s THAT time of year. And I fucking hate it. Even as a fat positive activist, I still find it all so overwhelming. 

Just for once, I’d like to get the message on January 1st that I’m OK just as I am. And because I know I won’t see that message on any billboard anytime soon, then I’ll do it — for you and for me!

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It’s certainly not wrong to want to lose weight or get fit, unless the desire is comes from a place of wanting to meet an unattainable version of yourself that someone else thinks is what you need. In that case, I am emphatically anti-weight loss. The reasons have to be internal. They must come from a genuine desire not to please anyone but yourself. And for many of us, myself included, that’s almost impossible.

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Even though I’m a size acceptance activist, I still have the occasional thought about losing weight. And it’s almost never about how I will feel physically. Almost always it’s about what I will look like, and how my life will be better. I don’t like admitting that, but it’s true. Thankfully these thoughts don’t come up nearly as much as they used to. But I have a history of disordered eating and self-loathing which I must put into check every day.  

Just so you know, not everyone who is fat or chubby wants to be thin. Advertisers would have you believe it, but it ain’t true. I know too many women (and men) who have found beauty, strength, and acceptance in their large bodies. And I’d like to think I’m one of them (though I still struggle). Their stories are a reminder of what it is to have serenity around our bodies, and I absolutely NEED those messages in my life.

Check these hotties out!

 

Vanessa fierce
Vanessa of Sweet Leigh Sewn

Aarti swimsuit

Aarti of Curves Become Her

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Margot Meanie

Please know that if you are feeling the resolution blues, it’s ok. You’re not alone. Your body is perfect. Yes, even your fat rolls, jiggly thighs and wide hips! Most people in the world look like you — not Beyonce. I promise!

There is so much body positive stuff out there to support you on your journey. Of course I’m here for you always, but here are some other peeps who are talkin’ the talk too:

Today I am loving myself. Today I compare myself to no one. Today I am enough.

Happy New Year!

xo