3 Ways to Practice Body Serenity

What is serenity anyway?  The dictionary defines serenity as being free and clear of storms or unpleasant change;  shining bright and steady.  Wouldn’t you like to feel that way about your body?  I think it’s absolutely possible no matter what you think your body looks like.  Though like most worthwhile things, they do require time and effort on your part.  But, at the end you’ll feel so good about yourself it will have been worth it.  So, here are 3 ways to begin getting serenity around your body and self-image today:



  1. FOCUS ON WHAT YOUR BODY CAN DO, rather than what it looks like.  If you’re lucky, you have legs to walk on, fingers to type with, eyes to see with and a voice to speak with.  We so often take these things for granted.  But imagine if you took away the ability to use just one of your body parts…now that’s a real challenge.  When you begin to honor all the amazing things your body can do, it’s hard to scold it for not looking a certain way.  Treat your body with respect and daily appreciate all that it does for you.  If you need to, I suggest writing a gratitude list of 5 things your body did for you each day for a month.  You will see and feel the difference in your attitude.                                                                                
  2. NO MORE COMPARE AND DESPAIR.  Comparing ourselves to other people is a useless pastime. The grass is always greener, so they say.  Usually when we are comparing ourselves to other people, we are projecting some fabulous life we think they have because they look a certain way.  In fact, most of us make all sorts of assumptions about people based on their appearances.  We say and think things like: He’s fat so he must be lazy;  She’s thin and has nice clothes, so she must be  happy.  Think about all the WRONG assumptions people have made about you.  Don’t they make you angry?  They should!  We have absolutely no idea what a person’s self-esteem is like based on outward appearance.  Instead of comparing yourself to others, compare yourself to yourself.  How can you be a better you?  And I don’t mean physically (unless that’s a goal you have).  I mean be a better human being and do nice things for others.  Be a giver rather than a taker.  That will certainly get you out of a compare and despair mindset.
  3. START MEDITATING.  Okay, so I know this doesn’t appeal to some of you, but give it a chance before you decide meditation is not for you.  I started meditating for about 3 minutes a day a couple of years ago.  Yes, that’s all it really takes.  Before I meditate, I find a comfortable position (lying flat on my back or sitting upright with my legs crossed) and then pick something to meditate on.  For example, one day I decided to meditate on SELF-LOVE.  With my eyes closed, and the timer set, I would inhale a deep breath and silently say to myself, SELF.  On the outward breath, I would silently say LOVE.  I did this for 3 minutes.  I’m not perfect, so occasionally my mind wanders, but then I gently come back to the meditation. What this does is  really set my mind in a positive direction for the day.  When I find myself wanting to say negative things to myself, I can pause, find a quiet place and meditate again until I feel calmer–even for just 30 seconds.  Try it, it really works!  Other great meditation topics are: All is well in my world or I am perfect as I am.  Come up with your own ideas and enjoy the process!
     

  

Do Affirmations Really Work?

The dictionary defines an affirmation as “the assertion that something exists or is true.” 
I love affirmations and have been using them for years.  One of my favorites, which I borrowed from brilliant author, Louise Hay, is “all is well in my world.”  That pretty much sums it up!  I repeated that one to myself throughout the day for a few weeks when I was feeling uncomfortable in my body. It’s amazing how wonderful it made me feel. I felt safe and in acceptance of my body a day at a time.  
Affirmations are a way of reassuring yourself that wherever you are in life, you are OK.  Sometimes we use them even when we don’t believe them yet.  For example, if you say to yourself every day, “I am beautiful and I love my body,” you may not believe it at first.  But the point is that you fake til’ you make it! The more we repeat something, the more we begin to believe it, whether it’s negative or positive.  I used to tell myself I was unattractive and fat over and over. Well, after saying it to myself for so long, I actually believed it.  But now most of my self-talk is positive, and I believe in my beauty and light. Don’t expect to transformed overnight. It takes time to change our habits and our thoughts, but it is possible.  
Start with one affirmation, and repeat it to yourself every day for 30 days.  Write it out and tape it to your bathroom mirror, where you’ll see it everyday. You can write your own, or borrow these lovely ones 
     I look in the mirror and I love what I see.  
     I treat myself with kindness and respect.  
     I am a valuable human being.  
     All is well in my world.