I am so freakin’ excited I can’t stand it! As I was researching a topic for this week’s blog, I came across an article on Brazil’s recent Plus Size Fashion Weekend, featuring women with hips, breasts, cellulite and real curves strutting their stuff on the runway in not much more than their bras and panties! I was immensely inspired and simply had to share it with you. These women make me proud to be a feminine creature, with my own unique set of dips and dimples! The fashion show, which is the biggest in Brazil, was created by journalist Renata Poskus Vaz. The plus size journalist has a blog of her own, called Mulherao, where she is an advocate of plus size women. The Fashion Weekend has been instrumental in the growth of the plus size industry in Brazil.
It’s 2012, and if you are like the millions of other women out there who are resolving to lose weight this year, it’s time to find a new resolution! Resolutions to lose weight and exercise more are usually bound for frustration and breakdown because they set you up to fail. As women we put so much pressure on ourselves to have this perfect body (whatever that means). But it doesn’t have to be that way. You can begin the new year in self-care and self-acceptance by simply loving who you are one day at a time. And P.S., you don’t have to wait for January 1st to do it!
Many people get so caught up in the tradition of resolutions that they avoid making changes the rest of the year. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying it’s bad to want to be better and feel better; striving for peace of mind and contentment are wonderful resolutions. However, punishing our bodies for the sake of fitting into society’s twisted views of beauty is another thing entirely. Being our best selves is about loving our bodies and ourselves no matter what we weigh or what size our jeans are.
And so I propose that you resolve to celebrate your muffin top, cellulite, dimples and soft flesh today and every day. As Mark Twain said, “A woman cannot be comfortable without her own approval.” AMEN! You can also practice this principle by telling other women how beautiful they are too. Pay it forward and help the world see that there is so much more to life than being obsessed with our bodies. Our bodies are a God given gift. We get to borrow these bodies temporarily, so treat them well, respect them, speak well of them and they will be good to you. That’s it.
I wish you a happy new year, full of confidence, self-acceptance and a willingness to do things just a little differently today.
P.S. In addition to continuing to love myself this year, I also resolve to blog more and do my share of paying it forward 🙂
- STOP READING MAINSTREAM FASHION MAGAZINES. I made the decision to stop buying and reading these magazines because they lacked the diversity that exists among real women. Super thin, air-brushed women are not role models to be emulated. They are false images, conjured up by the media and corporations who create an unattainable ideal to get your money and mess with your head! Yup, I said it. It’s all a bunch of bullshit. I realized that after many years of reading those magazines and obsessing over the cellulite and stretch mark-free bodies on the pages, that I felt really crappy about myself. Those women are not real. Instead, I prefer to read wonderful publications like Plus Model Magazine and Skorch. I read blogs by real, confident women who accept themselves and love their bodies, imperfections and all. I suggest you do the same.
- WEAR SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD NOW. It makes me so sad when I hear women say “I’ll wear that when I lose 20 pounds.” What the hell for? First of all, you deserve to feel good all the time. Secondly, what if you never lose the weight? Should you be doomed to a life of fashion mediocrity because you don’t look like Naomi Campbell? I DON’T THINK SO! Life is too short to not enjoy every moment. If that size 18 label makes you uncomfortable, then cut it off! Besides, there are so many wonderful clothing options for plus size women today. You can be fashion forward, chic and trendy at any size. So go out and treat yourself!
- HIGHLIGHT YOUR FAVORITE BODY PART. We all have a part of our bodies that we really like. Whether it’s you sexy thick legs, shapely bosom or gorgeous hair, you should play it up. I love my smile and my decolletage. So, I wear red lipstick and necklines that highlight my graceful neck. It always makes me feel good about myself. When you begin loving one body part, it becomes easier to love the rest of your body too. It may not happen over night. But the next time you are in front of the mirror, just say to yourself “I love my…!” It really works!
They want us to believe that we are ugly and unworthy because we have cellulite. They want us to believe that if we use their special potions, that our lives will become improve drastically. It’s total BULL For years they have caused women to feel less than for what is a normal occurrence. The reason women are prone to cellulite is because we tend to have thinner skin and carry more fat than men do. It’s just a fact. Although cellulite may be more prominent on heavier women, it does not necessarily go away if you lose weight. It can be genetic too. Accept the fact that you are like the majority of women and you’ll save yourself the agony of hating your thighs, butt, stomach, arms, blah, blah, blah!! So, it’s fine to keep on exercising and eating well. It’s good to be kind to your body. But don’t make yourself crazy trying to rid yourself of what makes you a woman. Embrace it and you will empower yourself and others.