Don’t Fall Into the Trap of Weight-Loss Resolutions

It’s the time of year when everyone is talking about resolutions. Resolutions to buy less and be more; Resolutions to spend more time with friends and family instead of in front of the TV; and of course, resolutions to lose weight.

New Year's Resolutions

Just writing that sentence triggers me immensely. I’ve had decades of resolutions that were focused on losing weight once and for all. Thank God the last resolution I made was to not make resolutions anymore — especially about weight loss. I find them fraught with weighty expectation and inevitable disappointment.

If you haven’t already, you will soon be bombarded with ads for the latest exercise craze, discounted gym memberships, or the diet book that will finally change your life. Yep. It’s THAT time of year. And I fucking hate it. Even as a fat positive activist, I still find it all so overwhelming. 

Just for once, I’d like to get the message on January 1st that I’m OK just as I am. And because I know I won’t see that message on any billboard anytime soon, then I’ll do it — for you and for me!

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It’s certainly not wrong to want to lose weight or get fit, unless the desire is comes from a place of wanting to meet an unattainable version of yourself that someone else thinks is what you need. In that case, I am emphatically anti-weight loss. The reasons have to be internal. They must come from a genuine desire not to please anyone but yourself. And for many of us, myself included, that’s almost impossible.

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Even though I’m a size acceptance activist, I still have the occasional thought about losing weight. And it’s almost never about how I will feel physically. Almost always it’s about what I will look like, and how my life will be better. I don’t like admitting that, but it’s true. Thankfully these thoughts don’t come up nearly as much as they used to. But I have a history of disordered eating and self-loathing which I must put into check every day.  

Just so you know, not everyone who is fat or chubby wants to be thin. Advertisers would have you believe it, but it ain’t true. I know too many women (and men) who have found beauty, strength, and acceptance in their large bodies. And I’d like to think I’m one of them (though I still struggle). Their stories are a reminder of what it is to have serenity around our bodies, and I absolutely NEED those messages in my life.

Check these hotties out!

 

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Vanessa of Sweet Leigh Sewn

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Aarti of Curves Become Her

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Margot Meanie

Please know that if you are feeling the resolution blues, it’s ok. You’re not alone. Your body is perfect. Yes, even your fat rolls, jiggly thighs and wide hips! Most people in the world look like you — not Beyonce. I promise!

There is so much body positive stuff out there to support you on your journey. Of course I’m here for you always, but here are some other peeps who are talkin’ the talk too:

Today I am loving myself. Today I compare myself to no one. Today I am enough.

Happy New Year!

xo

4 thoughts on “Don’t Fall Into the Trap of Weight-Loss Resolutions

  1. Everything about this post is amazing. I struggle daily too with the body mythology of thinness being more valuable than fatness. But its just mythology and being in that comfortable space is no more valuable as getting to that comfortable space in our own bodies and minds. To the journey love! Happy to be on it with YOU! ❤ ❤ <3.

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  2. I so agree with you (and am so flattered to be mentioned <3). The stuggle is so real, to be at peace with yourself. I spent so many years coming to peace with my body. Even that can be a double edged sword. Whenever I find myself feeling like I should "eat better" or excercise, I have to tick off a mental list of "whys". Is it because I feel tired and sluggish? Or is it because I think I'll look better in a tight shirt? Is it because I want to keep my body in optimal health so I can enjoy life? Or is it because I want to look more like the work says I'm supposed to look. It's a daily struggle to be true to myself. Etc, etc, etc…When all is said and done, to be happy within myself is the best act of self love I can present to myself. Resolutions be damned, I'm just going to follow my bliss!

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  3. Thanks for sharing. After many years of beating myself up for not being a “thin, petite and cute” Asian female, I have finally kicked the stereotype to the curb and accepted myself for the way I am. I am not thin or petite (but I can be cute if I want to be), and that is okay. I don’t make weight loss a resolution anymore, but I have resolved to work out regularly and eat well because I like how I feel when I do, and it is necessary for me health-wise. I know some people might even argue that I am not that big–and they’re right, there are larger women, and smaller women, but health-wise I am not doing that great and I need practice regular self-love to make sure I have a body in better condition (blood pressure, sugar levels) so I can continue living in this body. So glad to hear that weight loss isn’t on the top of your list of priorities.

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