The Vilification of Fat Bodies: How Society Disses Us

  Centuries  ago, being fat meant you were wealthy. You had more than enough food to go around.  And if you were poor, food was not plentiful and so you were thin.  Body size was one of many ways to assess class. Today, we gauge people’s personal worth and right to respect by the size of their … [Read more…]

Learning to Love My Totally Imperfect Ass

I’m a Black woman who yearns for a better ass.  It wasn’t always flat.  It used to be high and round and lovely.  But about 11 years ago I had a nasty fall on some steps, and my butt literally landed where the tread meets the risers.  It was incredibly painful, but I never went … [Read more…]

The Fat Girl Diet Debate & How I Fucked Up

So, here’s the thing.  I’ve spent at least 20 years of my life on a diet and I’m not sure I ever want to be on one again.  That’s why you will see me posting cute memes like the one below.  And my point is that if you don’t want to lose weight or ever … [Read more…]

How Posing in a Swimsuit Changed Me Forever

I want to thank Jessica Peterson, designer of Sorella Swim for the opportunity to be a part of the Sisters of All Sizes campaign.  I’ve done many photo shoots, but this one was by far the most challenging and empowering.   As a fat woman of color, my body is far from society’s ideal of beauty. … [Read more…]

Plus Size Office Chic

Last week, or maybe it was 2 weeks ago–I can’t remember because I’m getting old–I promised I would feature my co-worker, whose style I very much admire. She has clued me into some really great plus size fashion sites that I had never heard of, or just hadn’t really explored quite yet.  My co-worker, we’ll call … [Read more…]

It’s FATKINI Season Ya’ll!

Admittedly, I am obsessed with the idea of fatkinis. I even love the name. FATKINI!  I want to scream “fatkiniiiii” at the top of my lungs while wearing a fatkini in skinny Malibu.  I’m not even sure who coined the term fatkini, but it’s effing brilliant.  I have spent so many summers not swimming because … [Read more…]

3 Ways to Practice Body Serenity

What is serenity anyway?  The dictionary defines serenity as being free and clear of storms or unpleasant change;  shining bright and steady.  Wouldn’t you like to feel that way about your body?  I think it’s absolutely possible no matter what you think your body looks like.  Though like most worthwhile things, they do require time … [Read more…]