The Vilification of Fat Bodies: How Society Disses Us

  Centuries  ago, being fat meant you were wealthy. You had more than enough food to go around.  And if you were poor, food was not plentiful and so you were thin.  Body size was one of many ways to assess class. Today, we gauge people’s personal worth and right to respect by the size of their … [Read more…]

Learning to Love My Totally Imperfect Ass

I’m a Black woman who yearns for a better ass.  It wasn’t always flat.  It used to be high and round and lovely.  But about 11 years ago I had a nasty fall on some steps, and my butt literally landed where the tread meets the risers.  It was incredibly painful, but I never went … [Read more…]

3 Reasons I Avoid Talking About My Sugar Addiction

I’m a sugar addict. I am.  When sugar gets into my system, I get high.  And then I need more. And more. And….Ugh! I don’t like talking about my sugar addiction for three reasons: It’s very real, but conflicts with my position on dieting, and my disdain for food/body policing. I’m not sure I can … [Read more…]

How Posing in a Swimsuit Changed Me Forever

I want to thank Jessica Peterson, designer of Sorella Swim for the opportunity to be a part of the Sisters of All Sizes campaign.  I’ve done many photo shoots, but this one was by far the most challenging and empowering.   As a fat woman of color, my body is far from society’s ideal of beauty. … [Read more…]

My Interview with Velvet D’amour

Velvet, Velvet, Velvet.  There are no words to fully describe the divaliciousness of this woman.  I was recently lucky enough to interview the fashion photographer, founder of Vol Up 2 magazine, model and size acceptance activist.  She was in her Paris home, taking a break from editing some photos from a recent London photo shoot, when we made … [Read more…]

Guest Blogger Virgie Tovar on Hot FAT SEX

I am so thrilled that Virgie Tovar has agreed to be a guest blogger.  She is an inspiration to me on so many levels, and helps me to accept and love my body just as it is.  She is brave and funny and beautiful and wears her fat as a political statement, while donning mid … [Read more…]

10 Ways to Look Skinny, And Other Bullsh*t!

Don’t  you just love picking up a fashion magazine and reading those scintillating words on the cover? Dress 10 Pounds Thinner 7 Steps To Dress Yourself Skinny How to Look Slimmer Instantly! My Exact Shape & Size!  Really?  Oh, Yay. Looks Like We’ve Been Reduced to Fruit.  I’m Hungry. Holy Shit, Batman!  It’s even endorsed … [Read more…]